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करुणामय जयपुर!

करुणामय जयपुर!

(1) करुणामय वार्तालाप के परिचय की कार्यशाला-
लोगों के साथ विश्वसनीय रूप से जुड़कर उनकी परवाह करते हुए उनसे रिश्ते बनाना सिखाना|

23-24 जुलाई 2016, समय सुबह १० बजे से शाम के ५ बजे तक।

(2) करुणामय परवरिश की कार्यशाला
लोगों के साथ विश्वसनीय रूप से जुड़कर उनकी परवाह करते हुए उनसे रिश्ते बनाना सिखाना|

30-31 जुलाई 2016, समय सुबह १० बजे से शाम के ५ बजे तक।

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बातचीत के माध्यम से एक ऐसी दुनिया बनाना जहां बच्चे/युवा वयस्कों और माता-पिता/देखभाल करने वाले एक दूसरे के साथ मजबूत एवं विश्वसनीय रिश्तों बनाए|

अहिंसक संवाद पर मार्शल बी रोसेनबर्ग (NVC) के काम से प्रेरित, शम्मी नंदा द्वारा कुणाल एवं उदितिमा के सहयोग से आयोजित इन दो कार्यशालाओं में आपका स्वागत है।

हमारे दैनिक जीवन में करुणा पूर्ण कार्य करने का क्या मतलब है? क्या हम लोगों के साथ कनेक्ट कर सकते हैं जब वे चुनौती पूर्ण संवाद कर रहे हो ? हम जो करना या कहना चाह रहे है और वो नहीं कह पा रहे या कर पा रहे है तो कैसे हम अपने मन को शांत रख सकते है ? कैसे हम अपने साथी हमारे बच्चे, हमारे माता-पिता के साथ संबंधों को और अधिक गहरा कर सकते हैं?

जयपुर में ये दो कार्यशालाये इस तरह के सवालों के जवाब पता लगाने में और अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) के साथ करुणा मय जीवन जीने के तरीके खोजने मे मदद करेगी|

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) एक एसी दुनिया बनाने में मदद करता है , जहां हम अपनी बात को दूसरो का ख़याल रखते हुए, दोष और अपमान रहित भाषा में व्यक्त कर सकते है | यह सार्वभौमिक एकता की एक गहरी आध्यात्मिकता से जुड़ा है और हमें एसे साधन और तरीके देता है जो हमारे दैनिक जीवन में इस चेतना को बनाये रखने में मदद करता है .

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) के बारे में अधिक जानकारी के लिए क्लिक करे-https://goo.gl/y7IDUsand www.cnvc.org

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) की ये कार्यशाला अहिंसक संवाद के सिद्धांतो तथा दैनिक अनुभव की अवधारणाओं के सम्मिश्रण को सीखने मे किया गया एक छोटा सा प्रयास रहेगा|

फैसिलिटेटर के बारे में- शम्मी जयपुर के रहने वाले है और पिछले बारह वर्षों से यात्रा करते हुए विभिन्न समुदाओ के साथ सस्टेनेबल लिविंग पर काम कर रहे है | शम्मी का अहिंसक संवाद, झगड़ों के समाधान तथा सामूहिक निर्णय लेने की प्रणाली मे काफ़ी गहरी पकड़ है| और अपनी इस पकड़ को देश में तथा देश के बाहर पंहुचाने में शम्मी ने अपना योगदान दिया है|

शम्मी के बारे में अधिक जानकारी के लिए-
ब्लॉग https://courageouscommunication.wordpress.com/
फेसबुक पेज https://www.facebook.com/shammi.nanda.75

कुणाल और उदितिमा इन कार्यशालाओं के आयोजन में शम्मी का मदद करेंगे|
अहिन्साग्राम के सह मेजबान के रूप में कुणाल और उदितिमा भी अपने जीवन की यात्रा का आनंद ले रहे हैं, तथा अहिंसक संवाद एवं सर्वजनतन्त्र (Sociocracy) को सीखकर दुनिया को देना चाहते है| ये दोनो एक व्यापक जिज्ञासा एवं उत्साह के साथ दुनिया के लिए कुछ करना चाहते है|

शुल्क योगदान-
उम्र 21 या उससे कम के लिए कार्यशाला शुल्क इच्छानुसार तथा 21 से अधिक उम्र के प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के लिए प्रत्येक कार्यशाला शुल्क 2000 से 5000 के बीच आपकी क्षमता के अनुसार है | आपका राशि सहयोग फैसिलिटेटर के सपोर्ट , वर्कशॉप के आयोजन एवं ऐसे लोगो के सपोर्ट में भी जायेगा जो वर्कशॉप की पूर्ण राशी देने में असमर्थ है | अगर इसके वावजूद आप न्यूनतम शुक्ल देने मे असमर्थ हो तो रजिस्ट्रेशन फार्म मे स्पष्ट कर सकते है | हम आपको कॉल करेंगे तथा मिलकर ऐसे तरीके खोजने का प्रयास करेंगे जिससे आप हमें बिना पैसो के भी अन्य प्रकार से सहयोग कर सके .

भोजन व्यवस्था- अहिंसाग्राम में हम स्वास्थवर्धक भोजन पर ध्यान देते है | वर्कशॉप में अहिंसाग्राम के द्वारा आरोग्यपूर्ण शाकाहारी भोजन और नाश्ता दिया जावेगा |


अहिंसाग्राम किचन डायरेक्टर भूषण पाटिल, आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन में माहिर है और वे पूरी वर्कशॉप के दौरान आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन देगे. वे अहिंसाग्राम मे प्रयोगत्मक भोजन बना ने का आनन्द लेते है और वे उत्साहित है की अपना प्रेम और भोजन आप सभी के साथ बाटे .
कार्यशाला में बच्चे : यह कार्यशाला सब उम्र के लोगो के लिए है. अगर आपका बच्चा है और आपको उसको घर छोड़ने मे किसी प्रकार की असुबिधा हो तो आप आपके बच्चे को साथ मे ला सकते है | हम हमारी ओर से स्वतंत्र एवम् खेलने योग्य वातावरण प्रदान करने में मदद करेंगे | आपकी ओर से बच्चे की देखभाल हेतु कोई आना चाहे तो वो भी आ सकता है |
कृपया बच्चे को वर्कशॉप में लाने से पहले हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करें -9425416058

आप कार्यशाला में भाग लेने के लिए जयपुर के बाहर से आ रहे हैं और यहाँ रहने के लिए एक जगह खोजने में हमारी मदद चाहते हैं, तो हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करें ताकि हम दोस्तों के होस्टिंग स्थानों या आसपास रहने के लिए गेस्ट हाउस को ढूंढने में आपकी मदद कर सकते है.
वर्कशॉप स्थल :
उदय वाल्डोर्फ प्रेरित स्कूल,
3 शिव मार्ग, मद्रामपुरा, सिविल लाइंस, सिविल लाइंस मेट्रो स्टेशन के पास , जयपुर 302006

उदय-वाल्डोर्फ से प्रेरित स्कूल की उत्पत्ति जयपुर में एक पूर्ण शिक्षा की जरुरत को देखते हुए हुई| इसका मकसद बढते हुए बच्चे की जरूरतों को ध्यान में रखते हुए वास्तविक शिक्षा की भूमिका को पूरा करना है|
ये स्कूल वाल्डोर्फ के शिक्षा विज्ञान पर आधारित है, जो एक सच्ची एवं परिक्षण की हुई शिक्षा प्रदान करता है, एवं ऐसे पाठ्यक्रम का पालन करता है जिसका मकसद प्राकृतिक वातावरण में कल्पनाशील खेलो, सार्थक कामो और अर्थपूर्ण कला के माध्यम से बच्चो का शारीरिक, मानसिक, आध्यात्मिक, बौद्धिक एवं भावनात्मक रूप से विकास करना है|

करुणामय वार्तालाप के परिचय की कार्यशाला के रजिस्ट्रेशन के लिए क्लिक करेंhttps://goo.gl/MfCVqE
23-24 जुलाई 2016
समय- सुबह10:00 बजे से शाम 5:00 तक

करुणामय परवरिश की कार्यशाला के रजिस्ट्रेशन के लिए क्लिक करें- https://goo.gl/G5w0lj
30-31 जुलाई 2016
समय- सुबह10:00 बजे से शाम 5:00 तक

हिंदीअनुवाद: शिवालक्ष्मीपार्वती गौड़ व सम्यक आर्य

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Can adults care a bit more about the child’s need for Autonomy?

I often hang out with children and in my interaction with them, I am now understanding, that one need that is very strong and often unmet for them is the need for ‘autonomy’ and I often in my judgment I see adults much challenged in in acknowledging and understand this need for children that easily.

In one of my workshops I spoke to 18 year old Deepika(name changed) who was triggered by her fathers comment about her clothes. She was going out to meet her old friends and decided to plan the clothes that sheenjoys to wear. She is also a design student and likes paying attention to her clothes and tries to do it creatively in her own way. As she was leaving the house in her chosen clothes, here father commented on her clothes and in the conversation at some point told her that her clothes were ‘cheap’. This hurt her to such an extent that she was almost about to even drop the idea of going out. When I was talking to her we kept looking at her need for ‘understanding’ or ‘to be seen’ but as we went deeper at some point we came to the need for ‘autonomy’ or the power to choose how she wants to lead her life, at that moment there was great relief in her. That need really landed well on her.

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I am realising that in conversations between children and parents on topics like what the children should eat, or how they should keep their room or cupboard or kind of language they will use(slang or swear words, etc) the pain from the child comes from their sense or lack of having power to decide how they want to lead their lives and that’s a big thing fro them even if they may not be consciously aware of naming it as their need for autonomy in such incidents.

I have noticed that even in the workshops when parents actually understand that their child in above mentioned moments is longing for autonomy, some parents find it difficult to get the gravity of the pain or upset that the child is experiencing over their perceived loss of autonomy.

In my interaction with children I am more and more consciously trying to see, acknowledge and respect their need for autonomy and choce, seeing them as equals and I am having rich relationship from children of all ages, which could be some one who is even less than three years to some one who is around 25 year old. I am enjoying their trust and connection with me.

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Just wanted to share this understanding in case some one tries to incorporate in their life to create deeper connection with people whom we refer to as ‘children’ and some times even stop seeing them in their fullness. I have also seen parents who were having a challenge with their kids when they understand that the child has a certain tank for need for autonomy and want to try ways of filling this tank by finding ways to meet their need for autonomy for the child then her or she is able to let go some strategies which are super important for the parents. What I mean is that if at every small decision is taken by parents the child is forever in the scarcity of this need and can get triggered at all kinds of places. The shift could be when the kid is asking about clothes and its not a matter of life and death for the parents and they can live with the choice of the kid its better to go with that, so that on crucial decisions where it can endanger safety of the child, the child will be more willing to go with the strategy of the parent as they maybe experiencing enough autonomy in their life.

Once I was doing workshop in Chandigarh in an alternative school and I had the above conversation with a mom who was feeling challenged about some thing crucial the kid wanted and when she understood she can let go her preference for some decisions and go for the kids strategy she was relaxed. In two hours I got a message from her “ Hi Shammi, Lovely having and insight into my boys need for autonomy – As I write this I am sitting at Funcity to honour that need.  Thnx – Sangeeta (Name changed).

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NVC at Aman Setu School, Pune

This is the invite for a five day workshop that I am offering in Pune from 9th to 14th September. Out of all the days 13th September is open to all.

Please write to me at shamminanda@gmail.com if you want to join and you can show up on the 13th at 9 am at Aman Setu School.

See me beautiful,

Look for the best in me

That’s what I really am

And all I want to be

It may take some time

It may be hard to find

But see me beautiful

See me beautiful

Each and every day

Could you take a chance

Could you find a way

See me shining through

In everything that I do

And see me beautiful….                            

                                                 —–A poem by Marshall Rosenberg

Dear Parents,

In keeping with our spirit and vision of building a nourishing community, we are organizing a workshop to foster compassionate connections at our school. We are therefore hosting a five day program on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for our staff, children and parents as we attempt to make NVC a regular part of our day-to- day life for our school community.

Out of the five days, we are opening up the space for learning NVC for the parents for a day as we believe that the change we bring at the level of school is more sustainable for the children when the parents are also equipped with the necessary knowledge and skill to bring it in their families. NVC will support us in fostering deep connections in our relationships everywhere, however during this workshop we will focus on our ways of connecting with our kids. We believe that NVC is a meaningful and life enriching practice for parents, children, teachers and care givers.

The workshops will be facilitated by Shammi Nanda, who has been passionately working on NONVIOLENT COMMUNICATION (NVC) for the last five years and travels all around the country and outside to share it with different communities and organisations.

We see this workshop as a way for all of us to grow as individuals and bring joy, peace and harmony in our lives. Please attend this workshop in large numbers and also recommend this to friends and family members who may be interested.

‘See Me Beautiful’ – Creating a world of shared power with children!

A workshop based on Nonviolent Communication (NVC) of Marshall Rosenberg

NVC encourages us to see children in their fullness as complete human beings capable of experiencing a whole gamut of emotions form joy to pain like any grown up and having same beautiful needs as adults.
ABOUT THE WORKSHOP

We will look at ways:

  1. To move beyond finding ways to get children do things our way to building connection with them and find solutions, which work, for everyone.
  2. Develop consciousness and tools to support our kids to do things for the intrinsic value of the actions and not just for acceptance and validation from adults. This lets them take charge of their life and lets them grow up as self-connected beings.
  3. To empathize with them when they say ‘difficult’ things as well as when they are feeling excited about some thing or have some sense of accomplishment from doing some thing. In other words to actively participate and be with them in their mourning and celebrations.
  4. To move from just care taking and being a mere ‘parent’ to enjoying life with them as their friends.

FORMAT OF THE WORKSHOP

We will work with appreciative as well as challenging situations which could cause tenderness, joy, anger, frustration, pain, fear, guilt and so on with respect to our kids and find ways to engage with them even more harmoniously. We will learn basic concepts of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) based parenting or ways of interaction with children through exercises and our sharings; either individually or in small groups as well as role plays guided by the facilitator.

You can watch the film at the following link to understand how NVC can support children and schools.


ABOUT THE SPEAKER
To know about Shammi Nanda and his work on NVC, see his blog at https://courageouscommunication.wordpress.com/. To know more about NVC go to www.cnvc.org

PARTICULARS OF THE WORKSHOP:

For Date Time Venue
Children

(Classes 6,7,8,9)

9th and 14th of September During school hours Butterfly Garden
Parents 13th September 9 am – 3 pm Butterfly Garden
Teachers 11th and 12th September During school hours Butterfly Garden

YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS AND THE SPIRIT OF GIFT:

You are free to choose how you want to support Shammi. He is putting his energy into sharing NVC and other modalities of peace building and power with organizing systems in our communities and organizations. Your contribution will go to further his dreams including creating community spaces for deepening of this work. To know more about some of his dreams and what he wants to do with the money that is offered to him see https://goo.gl/a0GbEn

You can hear the voice of your heart to decide what you want to offer him. You can support him with financial offering or with promise of any other skills and resources that you would like to share with him to support his vision.

 FOOD: You will need to bring your own vegetarian tiffin for a potluck lunch and are welcome to share your lunch with other participants of the workshop!
Best Regards

Ruchi Agarwal and Shammi Nanda

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Anhad-Connecting respectfully and joyfully with our children.

This workshop is based on the principles of Nonviolent Communication(NVC) of Marshall Rosenberg.

We will together learn about respectfully living and engaging with children by seeing them as having the same needs as adults, even as their ways of meeting them could be different from how we might want them as. When needs are met or not, we all have pretty similar feelings irrespective of our age or sex. For example when a child does not have much choice to decide on what to eat, how to spend their time, where to go, who to be with, they may have a strong unmet need for autonomy which is painful. The experience or pain of that unmet need could be same as that of an adult when adults have the same unmet need triggered in some other experience of theirs. That is some thing we need to understand and see them as equals in our experience of needs met and unmet.

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Miki Kashtan says that most of the world believes that there should be equality between genders, race and caste, however there is a blind spot in terms of equality between children and adults. She sees the definition of equality as having the same need or the same experience of needs. This workshop is going to encourage us to see children in their fullness and we will look at ways of understanding theirs’ as well as our needs and to find solutions where each persons needs are taken into consideration.

John Holt, in his book ‘Escape from Chlildhood’ is critical of us creating ‘childhood’ as a category which sees children as incomplete and some kind of minions who are not able to decide for themselves. He advocates giving much more autonomy to children than that is in our present worlds.

This workshop is also inspired by Fukuoka’s work on ‘Do Nothing’ farming where he ask the farmers to not to do the unnecessary and instead creating an ecosystem of a forest where the plant takes care of itself. The leave brings nutrients from deep under the soil through the root system and go back on to the the soil and get composted to later enrich it, which in turn feeds the tree again and this cycle goes on. Same way we need to create soils where children can take charge of their life and take care of their needs with minimal support from adults.

According to me most of my conflicts arise and become painful when I am tightly attached to my ways of doing things and want the other to change to suit to my strategies. NVC supports us to hold our strategies lightly by looking at the story or the needs of the others person also and see how we can weave requests based on the needs of all the beings present in the situation. In this workshop we will learn the same in our dealing with children around us.

In this two day workshop, we will work with challenging situations which cause anger, frustration, pain, fear, guilt and so on with respect to our kids and see how we can engage with them in a way where we feel more connected and respectful towards each other. We will be doing this through exercises; either individually or in small groups as well as role plays guided by the facilitator.

When we can build skills to listen and to be present to the needs of our kids and look at solutions that matter to all, we feel empowered and free.

ABOUT THE FACILITATOR SHAMMI NANDA: Shammi Nanda has been a documentary film-maker since 1994 who studied at the Film and Institute Of India, Pune. He gradually moved to self-healing and sustainable food practices in the last one decade and even volunteered to run an Organic Kitchen for the Student of FTII for two years in Pune.

In his deep engagement with alternative communities and unshooling families/communities spanning more than a decade, he has been looking at respectful ways of bringing up children where each person matters.

While looking critically at disconnects in his own personal life, as well as the communities he has been connected with, he choose to dive deeply into NVC. He is also working on alternate conflict transformation processes like Restorative Circles and other consent decision modalities for groups and organisations llike Sociocracy. He has been travelling in India and other places to bring these modalities to his communities for the last five years. .

He is also inspired by Mahatma Gandhi, Miki Kashtan, Masanobu Fukuoka, Vinobha, John Holt and saints like Kabir, and draws connections between NVC and these world-views. An inspired and creative teacher, he brings a lot of energy into his teaching and brings NVC alive through compassion, humor and plain dedication.

To know more about Shammi and his work on NVC go tohttp://goo.gl/g2vkTo and to know more about NVC owww.cnvc.org

FINANCIAL CONTRIBUTIONS: 
Shammi has been experimenting on creative ways of raising funds to sustain himself. He often does workshops in the spirit of gift culture where people are invited to choose what they want to offer for him. You can choose to pay any thing between Rs2,500, to 7,000 depending on your financial resources and the desire to support the facilitator.
If for some reason you find it challenging to contribute the lowest figure, PLEASE FEEL FREE TO WRITE TO US at shamminanda@gmail.com or call 9486083163.
We would like you to share with us about ways you can support Shammi or the spread of NVC with your other skills or gifts that you have with you.

You can know more about what Shammi intends to do with the contributions that you offer him at http://goo.gl/yV8Ywq We see NVC as a gift which needs to reach all those who would want to learn it at the same time we want those who bring these gifts to us also are taken care of in the spirit of mutuality.

REGISTRATION:
Seats are limited and will be offered on first come first serve basis. For registration fill up the form at https://goo.gl/TWea8T The Venue is near Dhaulu Kuan and we will inform about it to you once you have registered online.

Food: You are requested to bring your tiffin and welcome to share your lunch with other participants of the workshop!

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Respecting the ‘No’ from our children will help them grow up with confidence to be able to protect their boundaries…

I was at our friends Ashok and Pria’s place in Kochi with another friend James, just after finishing the Sociocracy retreat two weeks ago. After being engaged in a workshop for the six days, James and I wished to rest and our hosts, Priya and Ashok, offered us to do so in one of the rooms. As we were going into the room,  their 7 year old daughter began to cry. We quickly realised that it was her room that was being offered to us and it was clear she was unhappy with it. Ashok and Pria reassured us that it was OK if we go there and the she will be fine in some time. We offered to rest instead in the drawing room but Ashok and Priya reassured us again that it was OK to rest in Vipasha’s room, and that this situation would also support Vipasha to learn more about sharing.

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At that point James expressed strongly that he was feeling uncomfortable around the situation and shared what was alive in him. He shared how he wished not to use her room because he could see that she is wanting her space and that it was a positive thing that she was expressing this.

“In speaking out like this She’s learning to be clear with others about her boundaries and personal space.” James explained. “If you support her now in honouring and respecting her “No” then it will support her in learning to speak up clearly for her needs and boundaries as an adult too. Otherwise she might feel unsafe doing so, and so many people, and especially women in certain cultures, grow into adulthood with a lack of acknowledgement of their personal space or boundaries. You’ll also find by approaching it this way that at some future point Vipasha might offer her room to another of her own choice. Then you can celebrate that now she has really learned about sharing.”

James’s words affected me, or rather struck me! I have heard often from my women friends of times when they felt their boundaries were not respected in their interactions, even with people close to them and how painful it was for them to experience those moments. Even more painful were the moments when they didn’t feel comfortable to express to others about their boundaries, even when they were experiencing that someone was not holding or respecting  them, or asking for their consent. They instead were silent or didn’t express what was important to them, because of the fear of hurting other people.

Sadly I have been on the side where I also acted in ways where some women friends experienced that their boundaries were not respected, and I have regrets about my actions.  Though I take 100 percent responsibility for my actions and would like to have a sense of discernment in such moments, at the same time some of my women friends also feel that they would have wanted to act in their power to express themselves fully, and to safeguard their boundaries by expressing in those moments when they were uncomfortable.  I realised its mutual, and the more you have a sense that your boundaries will be respected if you ask for it, the more safe you feel to ask for it. The awareness I got from this interaction was that we can all contribute to creating that safety in such situations.

I am grateful to James for this insight that we need to create safety in hearing children about their need for space.  It’s about honouring that they have control over their world and much more so, of their bodies. The moment I understood where James came from then I had no inclination to sleep in Vipasha’s room and we moved to another space so she can have the room to herself.  I was also happy to see her have her room and there was enough space in the other room for us to rest and sleep comfortably.

I am grateful to James for this insight and Ashok and Pria’s openness to receive the understanding that that came out of that moment, and to go along with what worked for all of us.

Besides, connecting to Sociocracy,  it’s about taking decisions with consent in our families and also making space for objections and to see the wisdom hidden in them. In a Sociocratic space nothing happens without consent of all the people present and all voices are equivalent. I was happy to see the voice of a seven year old to be fully and deeply heard as we took a decision where all of us could live with it with sufficient ease and comfort, and more importantly, with care for each other.

I met Ashok yesterday and he said that since our conversation around respecting the ‘No’, or listening to it with more care, they are noticing that they are conscious in their communication with her. Recognising her needs more than they had before, and he was enjoying that and realising the value of this is helping her to become more trusting and confident in herself.

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Its important for kids to be assured that deep down we enjoy and value their autonomy, even when we choose strategies for the sake of safety…

We spent two days figuring out ways to connect honestly and deeply with our children while holding care and safety for them on 23rd and 24th August, 2014. Did role plays, Mediations,good fights, potlucks, story telling, chants and much more…Realised that autonomy is one of the strong needs for children and how can parents assure that they care about their autonomy even when they express their concerns for their safety for the kids.
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It came again and again when we did any role play that in a world where adults seem to have structural power, autonomy is very scarce and precious for children.
I also understood that if parents cant ask for support form their children rather than being forever support givers it will give a sense of power to the children. It will assure them that they can also contribute to the parents well being and feel values in the process. For this parents need to be little more introspective and vulnerable.
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Was supported by Andrea Rubin and Samata Agrawal in facilitating the workshop. Very soon we will have Basabdutta Talukdar and Keku PT holding a NVC practice group and Empathy Circles in Hyderabad at Our Sacred Space…Grateful to Nayantara, Nalini, Uncle. Anant for offering their home for the workshop and taking care of us…and for Bhagya, Mudlia and all others for their support.
The pics have been taken largely by Andrea and Keku. — at Our Sacred Space.

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Compassionate Communication Fest in Delhi

Dear Friends,
We are delighted to invite you to the following five workshops inspired by Nonviolent Communication (NVC) of Marshall Rosenberg to be held this August in Delhi. All workshops will be held at Zorba the Buddha.
NVC is a way of being that facilitates our connection to ‘divine energy’ believed to be present in all beings. It allows us to speak a language that helps us access this ‘universal oneness’ that all spiritual practices seem to point toward. From this place of oneness, one is encouraged to find resources both internal and external, enough to take care of each person’s needs to live in peace, harmony and joy.
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The details about the contents of the workshop are below.
1. LIVING COURAGEOUSLY AND COMPASSIONATELY: An Intro to Compassionate Communication
Saturday – Sunday, 16th – 17th August, 2014

During this two day workshop we’ll learn a different way of communicating, involving expressing ourselves honestly while holding care for other people, building capacity to hear deeper messages, especially when people speak in a manner we don’t appreciate, making clear do-able requests of self and others, learning to hear “No” without hearing rejection, dealing with difficult situations heart-fully, finding solutions that benefit mutually, communicating through our feelings and needs instead of blame and demand/defence and attack, and expressing gratitude and appreciation in a manner that touches other people deeply. NVC encompasses all these things and more. We will explore these ideas together as a group using real life situations through open dialogue, role-play, and group-work.
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2. Parenting and Compassionate Communication
Wednesday-Thursday, 20th – 21st August

NVC comes from the place that all people matter equally and that their needs are universal. When needs are met or not, similar feelings are experienced by all human beings irrespective of their age or sex. In terms of parenting we see that the way our society is designed, structural power seems to lie with the adults and parents. NVC invites us to see our children as equals and attempts to lead us toward joyfully sharing that power with them whilst holding with care the needs for safety and ease for all. It allows us to have a genuine dialogue with our children where we express ourselves honestly and also see their needs. In this two-day workshop we will be learning about the basic principles of NVC and also enact some role-plays from everyday life. We would ask you to bring in your challenging situations which cause anger, frustration, pain, fear, guilt, and so on and work with these to transform them as gifts through which we can go deeper into the concerns, needs and dreams of all. Once we are able to access core needs it then becomes easier to see that there are many strategies to meet them for us to experience greater freedom and power in our lives. We are then no longer helpless creatures without choice in our responses to challenging stimuli, forced to react in default modes which often cause pain to both us and our children.

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3. Compassionate and Effective Communication at the Workplace
Saturday – Sunday, 23rd – 24th August, 2014

In these two days we will look at how we can make our experience at our workplace more inspiring as well as efficient and while getting/staying in touch with our sense of meaning and purpose in our life. We shall learn the basic principles of NVC and also enact role-plays from everyday experience and practice ways to express ourselves clearly, develop skills to give feedback which doesn’t sound like criticism and also at the same time be able to hear feedback in statements or words which may sound like criticism. Build capacity to hear difficult messages and not get triggered, by understanding where the other person is coming from, even if we don’t seem to agree with their strategies. To make clear requests and agreements in a manner that all concerned are motivated to work on the project by hearing and/or holding the concerns, feedback and voices of others during the decision-making process. Even if decision-maker/s are not able to meet all needs of team members, find strategies which reflect that all needs are at least heard and even valued leading to greater trust and a safer workplace.
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4. Compassionate Communication for Social Change Agents
( Activists, NGO Workers, Political Figures or Anyone who wants to make a social change)

Wednesday – Thursday, 27th – 28th August, 2014
We all dream of creating changes in the world. Some of us decide to put in a major part of our time and energy while others take it up as a profession. When we share ideas that are very different from those around us, it can create polarities or groups which soon begin to see each other as opponents. This often creates pain, sadness or loneliness in our work and life.
In this workshop we will look at ways to express our ‘strong’ or different opinions with a sense of care for others so that we can deepen our connection as we engage with them at a deeper human level. This can happen when we express what is deeply important for us and listen to the same from others, and find ways that will be sensitive to everyone’s needs.
A parent may find herself un-schooling her child in a manner that defies the established norm, some of us may be triggered by the excessive use of plastic bags, a green enthusiast may insist on segregation of kitchen waste in her building and her rooftop food-growing may angers the neighbours, a newly converted diet conscious person may struggle with adequate support and understanding from family and friends. Through the NVC process we shall look at similar challenging situations and learn to meaningfully engage with them. We will share and explore creative and fun solutions which not only hold care for each person’s needs and feelings but also go a long way towards creating resilient communities around us.
5. Compassionate Communication in Intimate Relationships
Saturday – Sunday, 30th – 31st August, 2014

In this workshop, we shall be looking at ways to unearth the hidden potential of our intimate relationships; to see these relationships as opportunities for personal growth and allow healing of our wounds and deep pain from our past by applying the principles and language of NVC. We shall see how NVC can support us to express our honesty with care, to have difficult conversations with greater ease, to understand and express our triggers, and to understand those of our partner with tenderness and safety. Also, how to develop a sense of curiosity when we hear ‘no’. To be able to say ‘no’ where the other person does not hear any personal rejection and making requests that are collaborative as well as do-able that hold everyone’s needs in place. To express gratitude, appreciation and regret that touch deeply, allowing the opening of the heart. The workshop will hold space for all this and much more. We will explore these ideas together as a group using real life situations through open dialogue, role-play, and group-work.

The above workshops will be facilitated by Shammi Nanda and supported by Gazala Singh.
All the workshops will be held at http://www.zorbathebuddha.org/
To know about Shammi go to http://goo.gl/jV3PJA and to know about Gazala go to http://goo.gl/Jo0fa9
To know more about NVC go to http://goo.gl/g2vkTo and http://www.cnvc.org
To Know about how to offer your Financial Contribution go to http://goo.gl/IAHhgK
For Registrations go to http://goo.gl/3lmhtk

Peace and Love,
Shammi Nanda and Gazala Singh

For any queries write to Gazala at gazalasingh@gmail.com or Shammi at shamminanda@gmail.com

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