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करुणामय जयपुर!

करुणामय जयपुर!

(1) करुणामय वार्तालाप के परिचय की कार्यशाला-
लोगों के साथ विश्वसनीय रूप से जुड़कर उनकी परवाह करते हुए उनसे रिश्ते बनाना सिखाना|

23-24 जुलाई 2016, समय सुबह १० बजे से शाम के ५ बजे तक।

(2) करुणामय परवरिश की कार्यशाला
लोगों के साथ विश्वसनीय रूप से जुड़कर उनकी परवाह करते हुए उनसे रिश्ते बनाना सिखाना|

30-31 जुलाई 2016, समय सुबह १० बजे से शाम के ५ बजे तक।

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बातचीत के माध्यम से एक ऐसी दुनिया बनाना जहां बच्चे/युवा वयस्कों और माता-पिता/देखभाल करने वाले एक दूसरे के साथ मजबूत एवं विश्वसनीय रिश्तों बनाए|

अहिंसक संवाद पर मार्शल बी रोसेनबर्ग (NVC) के काम से प्रेरित, शम्मी नंदा द्वारा कुणाल एवं उदितिमा के सहयोग से आयोजित इन दो कार्यशालाओं में आपका स्वागत है।

हमारे दैनिक जीवन में करुणा पूर्ण कार्य करने का क्या मतलब है? क्या हम लोगों के साथ कनेक्ट कर सकते हैं जब वे चुनौती पूर्ण संवाद कर रहे हो ? हम जो करना या कहना चाह रहे है और वो नहीं कह पा रहे या कर पा रहे है तो कैसे हम अपने मन को शांत रख सकते है ? कैसे हम अपने साथी हमारे बच्चे, हमारे माता-पिता के साथ संबंधों को और अधिक गहरा कर सकते हैं?

जयपुर में ये दो कार्यशालाये इस तरह के सवालों के जवाब पता लगाने में और अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) के साथ करुणा मय जीवन जीने के तरीके खोजने मे मदद करेगी|

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) एक एसी दुनिया बनाने में मदद करता है , जहां हम अपनी बात को दूसरो का ख़याल रखते हुए, दोष और अपमान रहित भाषा में व्यक्त कर सकते है | यह सार्वभौमिक एकता की एक गहरी आध्यात्मिकता से जुड़ा है और हमें एसे साधन और तरीके देता है जो हमारे दैनिक जीवन में इस चेतना को बनाये रखने में मदद करता है .

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) के बारे में अधिक जानकारी के लिए क्लिक करे-https://goo.gl/y7IDUsand www.cnvc.org

अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) की ये कार्यशाला अहिंसक संवाद के सिद्धांतो तथा दैनिक अनुभव की अवधारणाओं के सम्मिश्रण को सीखने मे किया गया एक छोटा सा प्रयास रहेगा|

फैसिलिटेटर के बारे में- शम्मी जयपुर के रहने वाले है और पिछले बारह वर्षों से यात्रा करते हुए विभिन्न समुदाओ के साथ सस्टेनेबल लिविंग पर काम कर रहे है | शम्मी का अहिंसक संवाद, झगड़ों के समाधान तथा सामूहिक निर्णय लेने की प्रणाली मे काफ़ी गहरी पकड़ है| और अपनी इस पकड़ को देश में तथा देश के बाहर पंहुचाने में शम्मी ने अपना योगदान दिया है|

शम्मी के बारे में अधिक जानकारी के लिए-
ब्लॉग https://courageouscommunication.wordpress.com/
फेसबुक पेज https://www.facebook.com/shammi.nanda.75

कुणाल और उदितिमा इन कार्यशालाओं के आयोजन में शम्मी का मदद करेंगे|
अहिन्साग्राम के सह मेजबान के रूप में कुणाल और उदितिमा भी अपने जीवन की यात्रा का आनंद ले रहे हैं, तथा अहिंसक संवाद एवं सर्वजनतन्त्र (Sociocracy) को सीखकर दुनिया को देना चाहते है| ये दोनो एक व्यापक जिज्ञासा एवं उत्साह के साथ दुनिया के लिए कुछ करना चाहते है|

शुल्क योगदान-
उम्र 21 या उससे कम के लिए कार्यशाला शुल्क इच्छानुसार तथा 21 से अधिक उम्र के प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के लिए प्रत्येक कार्यशाला शुल्क 2000 से 5000 के बीच आपकी क्षमता के अनुसार है | आपका राशि सहयोग फैसिलिटेटर के सपोर्ट , वर्कशॉप के आयोजन एवं ऐसे लोगो के सपोर्ट में भी जायेगा जो वर्कशॉप की पूर्ण राशी देने में असमर्थ है | अगर इसके वावजूद आप न्यूनतम शुक्ल देने मे असमर्थ हो तो रजिस्ट्रेशन फार्म मे स्पष्ट कर सकते है | हम आपको कॉल करेंगे तथा मिलकर ऐसे तरीके खोजने का प्रयास करेंगे जिससे आप हमें बिना पैसो के भी अन्य प्रकार से सहयोग कर सके .

भोजन व्यवस्था- अहिंसाग्राम में हम स्वास्थवर्धक भोजन पर ध्यान देते है | वर्कशॉप में अहिंसाग्राम के द्वारा आरोग्यपूर्ण शाकाहारी भोजन और नाश्ता दिया जावेगा |


अहिंसाग्राम किचन डायरेक्टर भूषण पाटिल, आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन में माहिर है और वे पूरी वर्कशॉप के दौरान आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन देगे. वे अहिंसाग्राम मे प्रयोगत्मक भोजन बना ने का आनन्द लेते है और वे उत्साहित है की अपना प्रेम और भोजन आप सभी के साथ बाटे .
कार्यशाला में बच्चे : यह कार्यशाला सब उम्र के लोगो के लिए है. अगर आपका बच्चा है और आपको उसको घर छोड़ने मे किसी प्रकार की असुबिधा हो तो आप आपके बच्चे को साथ मे ला सकते है | हम हमारी ओर से स्वतंत्र एवम् खेलने योग्य वातावरण प्रदान करने में मदद करेंगे | आपकी ओर से बच्चे की देखभाल हेतु कोई आना चाहे तो वो भी आ सकता है |
कृपया बच्चे को वर्कशॉप में लाने से पहले हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करें -9425416058

आप कार्यशाला में भाग लेने के लिए जयपुर के बाहर से आ रहे हैं और यहाँ रहने के लिए एक जगह खोजने में हमारी मदद चाहते हैं, तो हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करें ताकि हम दोस्तों के होस्टिंग स्थानों या आसपास रहने के लिए गेस्ट हाउस को ढूंढने में आपकी मदद कर सकते है.
वर्कशॉप स्थल :
उदय वाल्डोर्फ प्रेरित स्कूल,
3 शिव मार्ग, मद्रामपुरा, सिविल लाइंस, सिविल लाइंस मेट्रो स्टेशन के पास , जयपुर 302006

उदय-वाल्डोर्फ से प्रेरित स्कूल की उत्पत्ति जयपुर में एक पूर्ण शिक्षा की जरुरत को देखते हुए हुई| इसका मकसद बढते हुए बच्चे की जरूरतों को ध्यान में रखते हुए वास्तविक शिक्षा की भूमिका को पूरा करना है|
ये स्कूल वाल्डोर्फ के शिक्षा विज्ञान पर आधारित है, जो एक सच्ची एवं परिक्षण की हुई शिक्षा प्रदान करता है, एवं ऐसे पाठ्यक्रम का पालन करता है जिसका मकसद प्राकृतिक वातावरण में कल्पनाशील खेलो, सार्थक कामो और अर्थपूर्ण कला के माध्यम से बच्चो का शारीरिक, मानसिक, आध्यात्मिक, बौद्धिक एवं भावनात्मक रूप से विकास करना है|

करुणामय वार्तालाप के परिचय की कार्यशाला के रजिस्ट्रेशन के लिए क्लिक करेंhttps://goo.gl/MfCVqE
23-24 जुलाई 2016
समय- सुबह10:00 बजे से शाम 5:00 तक

करुणामय परवरिश की कार्यशाला के रजिस्ट्रेशन के लिए क्लिक करें- https://goo.gl/G5w0lj
30-31 जुलाई 2016
समय- सुबह10:00 बजे से शाम 5:00 तक

हिंदीअनुवाद: शिवालक्ष्मीपार्वती गौड़ व सम्यक आर्य

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Why do I crave for my chocolate?

I was at a Conscious Kitchen workshop on organised with Gillie and Raphael at Topsham in UK recently. We had made a nice meal with salads and veggie stews, mung bean pan cakes and much more.

Thats how the town looks as its on an EstuaryWe also had time for a conversation on food where we were looking at food with a need based consciousness. Trying to understand what we eat and why we eat. What all needs are met by food. As we began to explore people were surprised that food was a way to meet so many needs, ranging from health, community, creativity, contribution to other peoples lives, self care and care for others, comfort, love, connection, meaning and purpose, etc.

Conversations: what all needs does food meet for me...

In one of the conversations some one asked me – Why can’t I stop having my chocolate? I was asking her why does she want to have the chocolate at the first place? She said when she is bored and she wants some thing exciting she is attracted to a chocolate. I tried to encourage her to look at the need behind her wanting and see how beautiful the need was. It just came from my mouth – I think you are wanting to live and enjoy life, to celebrate it. As I said it there was a lot of energy on my face and I myself was excited with the idea of some one wanting to celebrate life. She heard it and some thing struck her. She acknowledged that she was looking for a life energy.  She kind of had a moment of wonder and then a gentle smile came on her face as her eyes became moist. That was enough for her that day and her expression had changed. There was lightness in her energy and she was wanting to go deeper into the idea of looking at her deeper needs through the window of food.  I was reminded of how Marshall says that needs are like a divine life energy. We also acknowledged that she was concerned  about her choice of eating a chocolate as she wants health and some kind of power in her world. But this time the energy was different as there was also a celebration in her to have the dream for life. I would say even behind the blame for her craving there was a need for feeling empowered and thats another beautiful life energy. 

Raphaels designing of the salad...

I was once again convinced that  that no matter we do their is a desire to meet a beautiful need behind our actions. Its for us to see how we choose our strategy and which need we want to hold more dearly, which one we want to let go at that moment.  No matter what our choices we can try to enjoy the beauty of the need. 

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Celebrating Conscious Eating – with Shammi in Totnes, UK.

Cook (and share!) a healthy Indian meal and learn how to make food choices compassionately, in ways inspired by Non-violent Communication (NVC)

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Shammi is an Indian film maker, change agent, organic grower, food aficionado and teacher of NVC. He will show us how to cook a simple and low-budget but delicious Indian meal with healthy ingredients: local and seasonal veggies, no animal product, etc.

You can join either at 5 pm to participate in the prepping and cooking or at 6.30 pm for the last stages of cooking. We will start eating at about 7 pm. Please book – see below!
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Shammi has experience in running organic community kitchens and is interested in the links between our emotional states and our food choices. He will guide us into a conversation on making food choices in a compassionate way – away from right-and-wrong or guilt-and-shame paradigms and towards a need-based approach that is gentle and caring to ourselves and those around us.

This playshop is offered in the spirit of the gift culture. Contributions welcome to cover the costs and to support Shammi in bringing his gifts to our communities.
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YOU MUST BOOK with Annie on a.l@zen.co.uk, 01803 762992 or 07929 962653.

Further info: Shammi’s public Facebook page (‘Kathadesh – a Land of Stories’) on http://goo.gl/1VaGMn; his blog onwww.courageouscommunication.wordpress.com as well ashttp://goo.gl/ZI6GOQ and http://goo.gl/tR4USH; a community space he co-created in Chandigarh: www.parshada.tumblr.com

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Kids like to get hurt too, when they do meaningful work!

I was at Embercombe for some days recently and spent some time in the kitchen. As I was making some steamed chickpea and carrot cutlets there were three kids, around 8 to 10 years old, who were baking bread by my side. They were doing things on their own, making the dough, putting it in the warming oven for it to rise, putting it in the hot oven, checking it once in a while and maybe asking for some help in taking the bread out when its done.

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I had the opportunity to take the bread out for them, it was nice to hear them talk of how they all got burnt while putting their hands in the oven. As one of them got a burn and was putting some herbal medicine the other two were also showing their burns to each other and to me too.

I realized for the children, getting slightly burnt was a sign that they can handle dangerous things and a kind of achievement. I was trying to see it from their mind and how empowered they feel when they do real stuff. It was nice to see a caring community which allows children to be part of the community in a meaningful way.

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Had some conversations with Fiona who talked of how she could not imagine using disposable diapers for her child as she found it disrespectful to keep the child in their shit as she herself would not like that to happen to her. I enjoyed my conversations with her about Unschooling and found a lot of common ground between us.

Also there was Alexendra who takes care of the kitchen who was very open to me making stuff. I made some modaks too.  There was Yara who was making breads and crumble too. I suggested we make a crumble with rice flour dough instead of wheat(the kind we make for modaks and she said yes to it. So when I go back I will try to make a pie with a crumble made with rice flour. Besides she made a lasagna with pumpkin slices instead of pasta and it was amazing. So it was a vegan and gluten free Lasagna.

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I am looking forward to our food event there where we will have around 100 people….its going to be an open space with four food stations of different kinds of food hosted by people who are doing varied experiments with food.

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I dont want to be pushy, let people be – its their life!

How can we care for people around us in a way that they don’t feel pushed by us?

Was at the three hour session on Conscious Kitchen that I had offered at Topssham with support form Gillie and Raphael. Met Annah there who was talking about how she does not want to push her family about her food choices and at the same time she is concerned about them. I see that earlier there was a tendency in me to share whatever I thought was valuable, I would often hear from people that I am too pushy. But for me the answer to is not to go to the other end and I say that its their life and I don’t need to say any thing. I see people do that often and just stay quiet but inside they are not at peace when their dad  or a dear friend is eating some thing which will increase his cholesterol level.

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Conscious Kitchen at Topsham, UK

So while I don’t want to be pushy, by not considering why people make certain food or life choices and see their limitations and resources at the same time how do I share my concerns and my knowledge that I have which I think could bring them more health and well being.

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A salad prepared by Raphael at the workshop!

In one of my workshops in Sadhana Forest in Auroville I supported Sophia, who is vegan, on the ways of having a dialogue with her friend whose fridge is full of dairy products…I asked Sophia to look for her own need behind having that dialogue with her friend and she said it was care for her friend’s health. Then we went to look into the needs of the friend and it came out that she might want to feel safe and kind of not judged by Sophia. Sophia prepared herself to understand the vulnerability of her friend, even tried to practice ways to empathise with her friend and worked on ensuring that  her longing to care for wellbeing of the friend reaches her in the way sophia wants it to go to her .

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At Sadhana Forest Auroville

At one point when I was in the phase of ‘let people decide for them’ I was at a friend Archana’s place in Bhopal and she was taking care of her parents and wanted them to follow a certain diet. I was there to support her in it by just hanging out and cooking with her.   At some point I saw her dad’s unwillingness to follow her suggestion and I told her not to give him that food if he doesn’t like it. She almost said that, – “why not, its my dad and I have to take care of him.” That also made sense to me. Since then I am more clear on wanting to walk on the difficult path of holding my need for contribution towards well being the other person and at  the same time some kind of consideration of their position and limitations and also willing to learn from them for what they have to offer to me. This is commonly called the zone of interdependence in NVC circles which is beyond the zone of control and total independence.  I believe that the transformation will happen for when we embrace this zone  and hold it gently in our engagements with people around us.

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Transitioning to Conscious Kitchen

When we want to work on our diet  for healing or for any other reason, we often begin to see that we are all along doing wrong  and want to improve and then set on a diet plan, then we set targets and often when we are not able to do it we blame ourselves. Most of the time these plans along with our dieticians and doctors are driven by guilt and shame. Some times such plans work but most often they freeze us and create lot of Noise in our mind-body-heart system. I have off late supported friends who want to embark on such journeys to do it with more self love and compassion, as well as awareness of the limitation of their resources.

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I have lately offered sharing on conscious eating where we look at our food practice beyond a blame-shame paradigm to a need based consciousness. Which means that if I dont have any dairy and one day I am offered a tea with lot of love I might have it and I can then be aware that I dint meet my need for care for animals but I can at least celebrate that I did have the milk tea as I wanted to have a connection with some one. Some times when we are not aware in situations like this we begin to create guilt.

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We did one such playshop at Hazelwood House, which is a 70 acre retreat center in Devon. I was happy to see Sky with his family and my friends Minni and Gillie come to spend the day along with all of us.

There were twenty of us. Me and Lucy, a dear friend, who is volunteering at Hazelwood helped me plan the flow. We had a moment of silence and then asked people to just have a check in of how they were feeling at the moment and what was their need for the day. This helped us connect with each other and we knew what each one is looking for in the day so we could be sensitive in holding the space for each other and be mindful of our own needs. I guess this kind of tuning in helped us to come together as a whole.

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I read the menu and asked who would like to take care of what and people came forward to be focalisers of the dish that they would like to take care of. Tom the Chef at Hazelwood has been generous to share his kitchen with us suggested we come one by one to the kitchen and I explain each group what they have to do. I liked his suggestion so instead of having all the twenty people come at the same time we had people coming in small group so the kitchen was not crowded and I could explain to each group one by one. I liked it as this little bit of structure helped me hold the flow more beautifully  and with ease. Some times when I work with flow it can also be overwhelming, I guess I have to come to a balance which works with my idea of emergence and which I can also hold with ease and also support the our learning.

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Also when I cook with a group of people who are not aware of my ways of cooking I ask them to take care of one dish rather than I taking care of the everything and asking others to just cut and chop things. I have seen some times when people come to help and do chopping they dont even know what they are doing it for. That could also be a way but mostly I dont prefer it as i want people to have a sense of learning and enjoy some creativity in the process. That then inspires them to go back and make the dish themselves.

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We had prepared a room for cutting so as there is not over crowding in the kitchen and people moved in and out of the room and the kitchen, to the fire, the washing area, the store room, asking for support from tom, chatting and there was a perfect synchronicity. We had set the intention for the time of lunch to be at 1.30 pm and without any one looking at the watch or reminding the lunch was served exactly at that time. This was the manifestation of group working in resonance with each other, or harmony of a music band which brought the creativity together. I am seeing the value of gentle structure which allow the flow to happen.

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In the end some of us shared the reflections from the day we spent together. Some said –  we would want such a spirit of community in our lives every day, some were moved by how they were held or that they realized some of their knots had opened up by that experience of that day, some one experienced creativity, some one experienced balance, some enjoyed the community….I am grateful to Hazelwood House for trusting me and making space for me and the community to come together and that too in the spirit of gift culture which is some thing they don’t do often and am also grateful to the people who came and held space for care for everyone to make it happen so beautifully.

Lucy also wrote and drew the gist of the day on paper…its like the essence of the day.

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One of the dishes which was appreciated was the Dessert. It was made with steamed sweet potato, coconut milk, agave nectar, cardamons, with a topping  toasted nuts and seeds with dried plums.

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This workshop was also in the spirit of Gift Culture where people could contribute from their heart and it was not priced. It was courageous step for Hazelwood House also to do it like that, in the end we were happy that people not just joyfully contributed but they came forward to make the event happen as if they were part of the Hazelwood community and not mere consumers of an event. The event has inspired our friends at Hazelwood House to explore Gift Culture more often. I am grateful to all the people from Hazelwood House who made this event happen.

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Offering on Making Conscious Food Choices with an Indian Meal

Making food choices compassionately

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