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If I want anyone to work with me and see if they are the right fit for our organisation, I would want to know and understand how do they respond when conflicts have happens in their community/organisation in the past. A willingness to engage and understand each other and stretching your self in such moments makes it possible for the communities or organisations to thrive. A much more appreciable thing for me would be if some one also works towards creating systems for challenging conversation and addressing conflicts in their group.
I say this as I see conflict as a natural thing and those who deny this natural part of their self at individual or organisation level are in some illusions and are doomed for creating personal and collective disasters.
I have been facing some of these situations at our organisation, Ahimsagram as I didn’t make agreements on ways of dealing with conflicts when people joined Ahimsagram or as partners and ended up with some who want to hide or block when there is a conflict.
Of course our learning about dealing with conflicts in our society is very limited. A big challenge is also having safe spaces for conflicts to emerge in them and that is some thing that has to happen at a systemic level in any group of people who come together to create some thing.
Below is a Mural on a wall in Mission Street in San Francisco. Glad to see such deep wisdom displayed on the walls by the artists there.
At the moment I am living and contributing at Ahimsagram in Jaipur, which began as a community space for people with a shared desire to live, learn and Share NVC and collaborative systems like sociocracy and holacracy , while living sustainably. We began in April 2017 with Sociocracy as our governance system and now are moving to Holacracy as a method for our governance, or rather we are in a live Holacracy ‘Experiment’ right now. I am not sure how well it will work but as of now its promising as well as super challenging at the same time. Its supposed to be a system which encourages distribution of authority and does not have managers who manage people but each person has a domain and accountability which is meant to be clearly spelt out and they take charge of their decisions, while being connected to the common vision and purpose of the organisation.
Introducing Holacracy is a tedious process and it does not have to happen all in one go, as we move on we naturally face problems, which in Holacracy is referred to as a ‘tension’ – a gap between what you want and where you are. It’s like an eco-system where the feedback moves within and among organisms(plants, animals, humans, elements of nature) and each part responds to the shifts by doing what they are meant to do. There is on one boss in a forest which directs the forest but still things move on, with each entity as a managing themselves in accordance with the shared purpose and make the system resilient. It’s because it is in the DNA of the entity or being to meet the overall purpose by taking care of their particular roles and accountabilities.
Creating our social DNA
Now, when humans have to organise in organisations and businesses, we don’t have a DNA like the being in the forest which allows us to know and do our accountability or in others words have underdeveloped systems for collaboration. This is because our ideas of what’s possible and what’s not has been shaped by the belief systems of the society. If we live in fear we want to hide things and share it selectively, we assume that people are not to be trusted so we want to control and as well as command the whole situation and not letting people act out their own roles with their power and creativity which stops them from growing. I have learnt that if we want to create collaborative organisation, the leaders have to unlearn their desire to save the organisation by jumping in at each crisis and attempting to fix it. As a founder of this space I have unneccesary done a lot of it, by taking the role of saviour and jump into every fight and force a solution rather than let the fight evolve so that the participants find their own answers with the given content and processes.It is important to create a systems where tensions can be harvested at the earliest. This way the person who experiences a tension comes forward to solve it. I am now learning that we can have a great dynamic growth if we can hold the space for tensions and let people take charge of their tensions. It reminds me of Dominic who intiaited the Restorative Circles process in Brazil uses the phrase “unravelling the gift of conflict”.
Yet at the same time it takes time to set up the system and every one falls back into the standard patterns of centralised command and control organisation, either as an authority or as a receiver.If a farmer is doing chemical farming for 20 to 30 years and then they start doing something totally new, like creating an eco-system of farming, it needs work to create a different atmosphere and processes. In Organic farming, the farmer began’s to rely on different elements of nature to let them do their role and begins to collaborate with them. The ants, bats, snakes and owls are seen as friends and entrusted to do their job. When we use chemical farming the first intervention is to put fertilisers which makes the soil acidic and kills all life which was earlier fertilising the soil. As a result when there is no living beings the whole job of fertilising is now to be done by more inputs from the farmer each year. So when I came from a traditional control and command system, I wanted to make sure everything works perfect, there was a fear of failure so I became a ‘perfectionist’ in my own way, raising the bar for myself and making my own life difficult and some time that of others also even more painful.Instead of reling on the inherent creative potential the control and comand manager tends to impose their methods which distance the team members from taking initiative and as a result the manager has to put more and more inputs just as a farmer using chemical fertilizers has to increase the inputs each year. I do see that there were some met needs like we did ‘achieve’ a lot by having control and command energy but it seems some people stopped initiating things or worst is they came from past where there initiative was mocked or criticised so they were scared to come up with ideas, or it was not part of their agenda to trust themselves. So the so called people in power and those disempowered had set roles. Holacracy tries to break these roles in a way it has a spirit of communism in action for me at this moment, may be tomorrow I might have a different opinion of it.
So there is something in the system where, which Quakers thought that everybody has the divine light, and that’s another kind of spirituality that we are talking about that every human being has the ‘anhad’, the unbounded potential and how can we have systems like, every seed has the same power to meet its purpose of life.
In this each element and player has a role, Like tagore said that freedom cannot happen to just one flower, the whole garden or forest has to bloom then there is freedom. Holacratic systems by setting up such process which bring in equivalence and transparency along with movement of feedbacks and distributed authority is also able to create an effective system. I am seeing the taste of this effectiveness and ease at moments and yet the challenge of learning, introducing and parcticing now processes which call for new habits and patterns. I will later on draw a comaparison between our control and command belief systems and habits with those that we need to bring in our lives to make systems like Holacracy work.
To know more about Holacracy go to https://www.holacracy.org/
Thanks to Parul agarwal and Hemshree Jain for organising the Blog Post.
Looking for support to join the International Intensive Training(IIT) of Nonviolent Communicaton(NVC) in Srilanka.
Dear Friends, There is an IIT happening from July 26 to August 4, 2017, in Srilanka and I intend to join it. The learning from here will deepen my understanding of NVC and support me in my work on sharing NVC back home. I have been offering NVC and this time I just want to go in a place where I can focus on my deepening of NVC. To know more about the program see http://www.cnvc.org/iit/2017-sri-lanka-iit
I am writing this to seek financial support of Rs 43,000 (670 US$) to Join it and would like to share why being here is important for me. This would cover my travel and contribution for the program. I am sharing my expense sheet for transparency https://goo.gl/wsHA79, If you need any clarification please write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
This IIT is special for me not just for the trainers who are coming but I have a sense of connection with the Srilanka NVC community as I have been there twice to offer NVC trainings and I would be knowing a lot of people coming for the IIT. I would like people in this subcontinent to make alliance and support each other. See more about my sharing in Srilanka at https://goo.gl/yJiNtJ, https://goo.gl/kXaRRj and https://goo.gl/EoUvFHI
Sharing NVC with Ben, Ramanusha, Fazal, Sivantha and Priya
I also appreciate the work of Jim and Jory, especially their Matrix about ‘Pathways to Liberation’. I have grown a lot in my nvc practice after seeing this work. I have heard a lot about them and would like to spend time with them.
I have learnt a lot from Katherine, especially on engaging with power and moving away from power over to power with. I have also learnt valuable work from her on healing old pain and have offered it to support other people.
I also feel connected to Ramanusha, as we have offered NVC trainings together where she was a co trainer and translation support and we share the vision of bringing NVC to people from all sections of the society and those in conflict situation. I have lot to learn from her on this kind of work as she is experienced with sharing NVC in areas of conflict.
Sharing NVC at farm, hosted by Trudy and Sion.
Sabine, is also coming, who is working on community supported certification processes, which is also my interest as I have been working on challenges that arise from degrees and certification while want to create more wholesome ways for evaluating the knowledge, skills and integrity of people who share NVC and the way they do it. Besides I have shared platform with her and co-facilitated Restorative Circles.
We also have Dunia Hategekimana from Rwanda. I see that I would like to understand how he sees the context of his regions and how it impacts his ways of sharing and practicing NVC and its form. I see a sense of shared past with Africa, and this is the first time I would be meeting a person from Africa and of colour who is a certified NVC trainer and would like to know about his challenges.
I would also like to share with the people there about the work that Ahimsagram is doing in India and want to invite people to be with us. Besides, we are also offering a training with Miki Kashtan in Jan 2018 on Transforming Organisations Through Collaborative Processes, and I would like to share about the offering so they can understand better in order to make an informed choice about joining us. This will also deepen the learning of NVC in this region and build stronger bonds.
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Welcome to a workshop space to help children understand their parents better and build deep connection with them, or to supporting parents/caregivers to work on their relationship with children. This workshop is meaningful for both parents as well as children.
30 & 31 July 2016.
10:00 AM to 5:00 PM
VENUE: Uday Waldorf Inspired School of Jaipur,, 3 Shiv Marg, Madrampura, Civil Lines, Near Civil Lines Metro Station, Jaipur 302006, India
The intention is to create a world where children/young adults and parents/caregivers hold relationships of strong trust and friendship with each other through their ways of communication.
The workshop is inspired by the works of Marshall B Rosenberg on Nonviolent Communication(NVC) , facilitated by Shammi Nanda and supported by Kunal, Uditima and Bhushan.
Can we aspire to a world where children/ young adults and parents experience strong trust and friendship with each other? Where both enjoy sharing the celebrations from their life, and feel safe sharing their challenges too. Where either the child or the parent feel safe to say ‘No’ when an agreement does not serve them, and they are curious to hear the beautiful needs behind their ‘No’. Where the family members can have open and deep conversations even while holding different worldviews. Or, even when things go wrong and there is deep hurt or pain, they are able to listen to each other and work towards restoration – Welcome to this workshop in Jaipur where we will explore this and many more questions and find ways to live with compassion in very concrete and real ways with Nonviolent Communication(NVC).
NVC can support us in creating a world where we can express genuinely while holding care for other people, in a language devoid of any blame or shame. It connects us to a deeper spirituality of universal oneness and give us tools and techniques to live that consciousness in our day to day life.
The workshop is a combination of learning the concepts of NVC and Experiential learning from our day to day situations through role plays.
Registration link at the end!
About the Facilitator: Shammi belongs to Jaipur and for the last twelve years he has been travelling and working with communities and groups engaging with sustainable life practices. He is also deeply engaged with Nonviolent Communication, Conflict Resolution and Collaborative Decision Making Systems and has been sharing it all over the country and outside. To know more about hm visit
His blog at https://courageouscommunication.wordpress.com/ His FB page at https://www.facebook.com/shammi.nanda.75
Kunal, Bhushan & Uditima will be supporting Shammi in holding the space & workshop.
Co-hosts at AhimsaGram, they’re enjoying their journey of living, learning & sharing NVC & Sociocracy.
They bring along with them a wide-eyed curiosity & enthusiasm for the world, its communities & the gits they hold.
For ages 21 & below, the workshop is offered as gift culture/pay as your heart’s wish, & for ages above it’s offered on a sliding scale from Rs 5,000 to 2,000. You can choose to pay whatever is comfortable in the given range. It will go to support Ahimsagram, which is now a center for learning and sharing such modalities. It will also pay for other organizing costs for the event and compensate for the payment of those who find it challenging to pay the minimum amount. We believe that as we learn and grow together we take care of all those who offer us their gifts while also fostering a spirit of care for all the people in our communities.
At the same time, if you find it challenging to pay the minimum amount please feel free to click on the option for it in the registration form and we will call you to find ways where were can support each other, with or without money.
AhimsaGram is also working on ‘conscious kitchen’ and will be providing wholesome and healthy Vegetarian lunch, snacks & juices.
Bhushan Patil, Director Food, Nutrition & Kitchen Operations at AhimsaGram, will be managing the health, deliciousness & deliverance of the wholesome food that’ll be served throughout these workshops.
He’s enjoying the experimental space & energy of the AhimsaGram kitchen, & is always excited to share & spread his love & food!
Support for bringing children to the venue. This workshop are open to all ages, as long as the person finds it interesting enough to sit there. If you have a smaller child who might want more free space,and it’s a challenge for you to leave them at home and you would want to bring them here, We have a space where children can hang out, play & be free. If you want to bring someone to help to take care of the kids that’s also fine with us.
Please call us up at +91- 9425416058, before taking the decision of bringing children along with you.
If you are coming from outside Jaipur to attend the workshop and would want residential support for a place in the city,, we will try to support you by either hosting you in friend’s homes or suggesting guest houses to stay around. Please write to us at our id or call to discuss it.
The workshop is hosted by AhimsaGram and Uday-Waldrof Inspired School, Jaipur.
Uday is born out of the need to have a school that provides wholesome education in Jaipur, to address the needs of a growing child and fulfil the real role of education.
The school is based on Waldorf pedagogy which offers a true , tested education & follows a curriculum that aims to educate the child wholly: physically, spiritually ,emotionally & intellectually, through imaginative play, meaningful work & expressive arts in a natural environment.
To register here for this workshop: https://goo.gl/G5w0lj
The workshop is hosted by AhimsaGram and Uday-Waldrof Inspired School, Jaipur.
आपका स्वागत है करुणामय परवरिश की कार्यशाला में जिसमे बच्चे अपने माता -पिता को बेहतर तरीके से समझ पाए एवं माता पिता अपने बच्चो को साथ गहरे रिश्ते बना पाए | यह कार्यशाला बच्चो एवं माता -पिता दोनों के लिए उपयुक्त है |
इस कार्यशाला का उद्देश्य एक एसी दुनिया बनाना है जहा संवाद के द्वारा माता -पिता /देखभाल करने वाले एवं बच्चे /वयस्क के बीच सच्चे एवं मजबूत रिश्ते बने | यह कार्यशाला अहिंसक संवाद (Nonviolent Communication) पर मार्शल बी रोसेनबर्ग के काम से प्रेरित, शम्मी नंदा द्वारा कुणाल एवं उदितिमा के सहयोग से आयोजित होगी।
क्या हम एसी दुनिया की आकांशा कर सकते है जहा बच्चे /वयस्क और माता-पिता सच्चे एवं मजबूत रिश्ते तथा एक दुसरे के साथ दोस्ती का अनुभव कर सके?? जहा दोनों एक दुसरे के साथ अपनी खुशियों को बाटकर आनंदित हो सके | जहा बच्चे या पेरेंट्स, किसी बात से सहमत न होने पर ‘ना’ कहने के लिए अपने आप को स्वत्रंत महसूस कर सके | और उस न के पीछे की खुवसुरत जरुरत को सुनने के लिए उत्सुक हो |जहा परिवार के सभी सदस्य, अलग-अलग वेष्बिक नजरिया होने के बावजूद भी खुली एवं गहरी बातचीत कर सके | यहां तक कि जब कोई बात बिगड़ जाए और गहरा दर्द हो तब वे एक दूसरे को सुनने के लिए सक्षम हो और रिश्ते को पूर्वस्थिति में लाने का प्रयास करें| जयपुर में इस कार्यशाला में आपका स्वागत है जहा हम इस तरह के सवालो के जबाव एवं अहिंसक संवाद के साथ करुणामय जीवन जीने के तरीके खोजेंगे |
अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) एक एसी दुनिया बनाने में मदद करता है , जहां हम अपनी बात को दूसरो का ख़याल रखते हुए, दोष और अपमान रहित भाषा में व्यक्त कर सकते है | यह सार्वभौमिक एकता की एक गहरी आध्यात्मिकता से जुड़ा है और हमें एसे साधन और तरीके देता है जो हमारे दैनिक जीवन में इस चेतना को बनाये रखने में मदद करता है|
अहिंसक संवाद (NVC) की ये कार्यशाला अहिंसक संवाद के सिद्धांतो तथा दैनिक अनुभव की अवधारणाओं के सम्मिश्रण को सीखने मे किया गया एक छोटा सा प्रयास रहेगा|
फैसिलिटेटर के बारे में – शम्मी जयपुर के रहने वाले है और पिछले बारह वर्षों से यात्रा करते हुए विभिन्न समुदाओ के साथ सस्टेनेबल लिविंग पर काम कर रहे है | शम्मी का अहिंसक संवाद, झगड़ों के समाधान तथा सामूहिक निर्णय लेने की प्रणाली मे काफ़ी गहरी पकड़ है| और अपनी इस पकड़ को देश में तथा देश के बाहर पंहुचाने में शम्मी ने अपना योगदान दिया है|
शम्मी के बारे में अधिक जानकारी के लिए-
फेसबुक पेज https://www.facebook.com/shammi.nanda.75
कुणाल और उदितिमा इन कार्यशालाओं के आयोजन में शम्मी का मदद करेंगे|
अहिन्साग्राम मे सह मेजबान के रूप में कुणाल और उदितिमा भी अपने जीवन की यात्रा का आनंद ले रहे हैं, तथा अहिंसक संवाद एवं सर्वजनतन्त्र (Sociocracy) को सीखकर दुनिया को देना चाहते है| ये दोनो एक व्यापक जिज्ञासा एवं उत्साह के साथ दुनिया के लिए कुछ करना चाहते है|
शुल्क योगदान- उम्र 21 या उससे कम के लिए कार्यशाला शुल्क इच्छानुसार तथा 21 से अधिक उम्र के प्रत्येक व्यक्ति के लिए प्रत्येक कार्यशाला शुल्क 2000 से 5000 के बीच आपकी क्षमता के अनुसार है | आपका राशि सहयोग फैसिलिटेटर के सपोर्ट , वर्कशॉप के आयोजन एवं ऐसे लोगो के सपोर्ट में भी जायेगा जो वर्कशॉप की पूर्ण राशी देने में असमर्थ है | अगर इसके वावजूद आप न्यूनतम शुक्ल देने मे असमर्थ हो तो रजिस्ट्रेशन फार्म मे स्पष्ट कर सकते है | हम आपको कॉल करेंगे तथा मिलकर ऐसे तरीके खोजने का प्रयास करेंगे जिससे आप हमें बिना पैसो के भी अन्य प्रकार से सहयोग कर सके |
भोजन व्यवस्था- अहिंसाग्राम में हम स्वास्थवर्धक भोजन पर ध्यान देते है | वर्कशॉप में अहिंसाग्राम के द्वारा आरोग्यपूर्ण शाकाहारी भोजन और नाश्ता दिया जावेगा |
अहिंसाग्राम किचन डायरेक्टर भूषण पाटिल, आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन में माहिर है और वे पूरी वर्कशॉप के दौरान आरोग्यपूर्ण भोजन देगे. वे अहिंसाग्राम मे प्रयोगत्मक भोजन बनाने का आनन्द लेते है और वे उत्साहित है की अपना प्रेम और भोजन आप सभी के साथ बाटे |
कार्यशाला में बच्चे – यह कार्यशाला सब उम्र के लोगो के लिए है | अगर आपका बच्चा है और आपको उसको घर छोड़ने मे किसी प्रकार की असुबिधा हो तो आप आपके बच्चे को साथ मे ला सकते हो| हम हमारी ओर से स्वतंत्र एवम् खेलने योग्य वातावरण प्रदान करने में मदद करेंगे | आपकी ओर से बच्चे की देखभाल हेतु कोई आना चाहे तो वो भी आ सकता है |
कृपया बच्चे को वर्कशॉप में लाने से पहले हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करें -9425416058
अगर आप कार्यशाला में भाग लेने के लिए जयपुर के बाहर से आ रहे हैं और यहाँ रहने के लिए एक जगह खोजने हमारी मदद चाहते हैं, तो हमें कॉल कर के सूचित करे | हम दोस्तों के होस्टिंग स्थानों या आसपास रहने के लिए गेस्ट हाउस को ढूंढने में आपकी मदद कर सकते है |
यह कार्यशाला अहिंसाग्राम और उदय – वाल्डोर्फ प्रेरित स्कूल, जयपुर द्वारा होस्ट की है|
वर्कशॉप स्थल :
उदय – वाल्डोर्फ प्रेरित स्कूल,
3 शिव मार्ग, मद्रामपुरा, सिविल लाइंस, सिविल लाइंस मेट्रो स्टेशन के पास , जयपुर 302006
उदय-वाल्डोर्फ से प्रेरित स्कूल की उत्पत्ति जयपुर में एक पूर्ण शिक्षा की जरुरत को देखते हुए हुई| इसका मकसद बढते हुए बच्चो की जरूरतों को ध्यान में रखते हुए वास्तविक शिक्षा की भूमिका को पूरा करना है|
ये स्कूल वाल्डोर्फ के शिक्षा विज्ञान पर आधारित है, जो एक सच्ची एवं परिक्षण की हुई शिक्षा प्रदान करता है, एवं ऐसे पाठ्यक्रम का पालन करता है जिसका मकसद प्राकृतिक वातावरण में कल्पनाशील खेलो, सार्थक कामो और अर्थपूर्ण कला के माध्यम से बच्चो का शारीरिक, मानसिक, आध्यात्मिक, बौद्धिक एवं भावनात्मक रूप से विकास करना है|
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वर्कशॉप स्थल :
उदय – वाल्डोर्फ प्रेरित स्कूल,
3 शिव मार्ग, मद्रामपुरा, सिविल लाइंस, सिविल लाइंस मेट्रो स्टेशन के पास , जयपुर 302006
दिनांक: 30-31 जुलाई 2016
समय: प्रात:10:00 बजे से सायं 5:00 बजे तक
हिंदी अनुवाद : शिवालक्ष्मी पार्वती गौड़, सहयोग – सम्यक आर्य
I have been experimenting with gift culture where I was doing workshops and other offerings where people could choose what they wanted to contribute. I am grateful to have been taken care of and nourished by financial contributions and so many different ways by my community and friends. I have been asked this question, how much are they expected to pay.
“How do I decide how much to contribute?”
We are trusting that your are holding the intention of care for your self as well as those who bring this valuable gift of NVC to our life and would enjoy nourishing them too to the best of your abilities.
For letting your know that larger picture I would like to share information on the areas where I would want to spend the money that you would offer me. If you share my dreams, you can think of many different ways of contributing towards fulfilling these dreams with our without money.
Some of the things for which I would need money in the near future. (With Approx Amount needed for the activitiy)
- My personal expenses for home, travel and nourishment. (Rs 40,000 a month.)
- Purchase a Fairphone, Rs 30,000 – a Fair Phone Free from Violence in its production. See http://www.fairphone.com/
- Travelling in Europe to learn about Sociocracy in May – June 2105
- Travel to Brazil to support my learning of Restorative Circle Process more deeply- (Rs 2.5 Lakh).
- To go through NVC certification process and travel work with three mentors. (Rs. 3 Lakh).
- To attend an International Intensive Training (IIT) on NVC which is necessary for going into Certification Process. Seehttp://www.cnvc.org/luxembourg-october-2014 (Rs. 3 Lakh)
- Supporting travel and expenses of Apprentices who want to learn NVC with me and support me in my work (50,000 a month).
- Creating Video and Audios on Nonviolent Communication for the Indian context. 3,00,000 per year.
You can also contribute in ways other than money too by giving your time and skills, providing spaces for hosting workshops, supporting me in hosting workshops, documenting the learnings from the workshops. Besides if you have any other ideas to support my dreams you are welcome to suggest them
Some of my long term dreams that I would like to work on if I have more resources, is to create and host a space for a land based sustainable living and learning community. It will be a learning and resource center on Conflict Transformation, Community Living, Consensus process and Non Violence. The place would be accessible to people from all over the world with more efforts to attract people from South Asia and Africa.
This place will support in creating a Peace Corp of which can go and support other individuals, families, communities, sects, organisation, government agencies, companies, movements, political groups, or any one who are willing to try our conflict transformation practices. The Peace Corp could even go in areas of Riots and Violent Struggles to create spaces for dialogue between the groups who are in conflict. We will strive to work with any one, irrespective of their ideological stands. Amount for this is not known yet as it will slowly evolve as I go along and find more co-travellers for this journey of learning and sharing NVC and others Restorative Peace Practices.
I also dream to muster support among like minded people to advocate for a Ministry of Compassion for all Governments and working on creating Restorative Justice Practices and also stopping capital punishment.
If you have any queries about the workshop or the payment format or want ideas to contribute in other creative ways, please mention in the registration form or write to me at firstname.lastname@example.org and we will get back to you.
During the workshop we will spend an hour to talk about this to hear all the views, concerns and challenges that people have about this process. We will see how we can have dialogue in an NVC way and this will contribute to a live learning situation.