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This is a space to share about collaborators who have supported or co-hosted events with Shammi and those who are working with him presently.

Control and Command to distributed Authority with Holacracy

At the moment I am living and contributing at Ahimsagram in Jaipur, which began as a community space for people with a shared desire to live, learn and Share NVC and collaborative systems like sociocracy and holacracy , while living sustainably. We began in April 2017 with Sociocracy as our governance system and now are moving to  Holacracy as a method for our governance, or rather we are in a live Holacracy ‘Experiment’ right now.  I am not sure how well it will work but as of now its promising as well as super challenging at the same time. Its supposed to be a system which encourages distribution of authority and does not have managers who manage people but each person has a domain and accountability which is meant to be clearly spelt out and they take charge of their decisions, while being connected to the common vision and purpose of the organisation.

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Introducing Holacracy is a tedious process and it does not have to happen all in one go, as we move on we naturally face problems, which in Holacracy is referred to as a ‘tension’ – a gap between what you want and where you are. It’s like an eco-system where the feedback moves within and among organisms(plants, animals, humans, elements of nature) and each part responds to the shifts by doing what they are meant to do. There is on one boss in a forest which directs the forest but still things move on, with each entity as a managing themselves in accordance with the shared purpose and make the system resilient. It’s because it is in the DNA of the entity or being to meet the overall purpose by taking care of their particular roles and accountabilities.

Creating our social DNA

Now, when humans have to organise in organisations and businesses, we don’t have a DNA like the being in the forest which allows us to know and do our accountability or in others words have underdeveloped systems for collaboration. This is because our ideas of what’s possible and what’s not has been shaped by the belief systems of the society. If we live in fear we want to hide things and share it selectively, we assume that people are not to be trusted so we want to control and as well as  command the whole situation and not letting people act out their own roles with their power and creativity which stops them from growing. I have learnt that if we want to create collaborative organisation, the leaders have to unlearn their desire to save the organisation by jumping in at each crisis and attempting to fix it. As a founder of this space I have unneccesary done a lot of it, by taking the role of saviour and jump into every fight and force a solution rather than let the fight evolve so that the participants find their own answers with the given content and processes.It is important to create a systems where tensions can be harvested at the earliest. This way the person who experiences a tension comes forward to solve it. I am now learning that we can have a great dynamic growth if we can hold the space for tensions and let people take charge of their tensions. It reminds me of Dominic who intiaited the Restorative Circles process in Brazil uses the phrase “unravelling the gift of conflict”.

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Yet at the same time it takes time to set up the system and every one falls back into the standard patterns of centralised command and control organisation, either as an authority or as a receiver.If a farmer is doing chemical farming for 20 to 30 years  and then they start doing something totally new, like creating an eco-system of farming,  it needs work to create a different atmosphere and processes. In Organic farming, the farmer began’s to rely on different elements of nature to let them do their role and begins to collaborate with them. The ants, bats, snakes and owls are seen as friends and entrusted to do their job. When we use chemical farming the first intervention is to put fertilisers which makes the soil acidic and kills all life which was earlier fertilising the soil. As a result when there is no living beings the whole job of fertilising is now to be done by more inputs from the farmer each year.  So when I came from a traditional control and command system, I wanted to make sure everything works perfect, there was a fear of failure so I became a ‘perfectionist’ in my own way, raising the bar for myself and making my own life difficult and some time that of others also even more painful.Instead of reling on the inherent creative potential the control and comand manager tends to impose their methods which distance the team members from taking initiative and as a result the manager has to put more and more inputs just as a farmer using chemical fertilizers has to increase the inputs each year. I do see that there were some met needs like we did ‘achieve’ a lot by having control and command energy but it seems some people stopped initiating things or worst is they came from past where there initiative was mocked or criticised so they were scared to come up with ideas, or it was not part of their agenda to trust themselves. So the so called people in power and those disempowered had set roles. Holacracy tries to break these roles in a way it has a  spirit of communism in action for me at this moment, may be tomorrow I might have a different opinion of it.

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So there is something in the system where, which Quakers  thought that everybody has the divine light, and that’s another kind of spirituality that we are talking about that every human being has the ‘anhad’, the unbounded potential and how can we have systems like, every seed has the same power to meet its purpose of life.

In this each element and player has a role, Like tagore said that freedom cannot happen to just one flower, the whole garden or forest has to bloom then there is freedom. Holacratic systems by setting up such process which bring in equivalence and transparency along with movement of feedbacks and distributed authority is also able to create an effective system. I am seeing the taste of this effectiveness and ease at moments and yet the challenge of learning, introducing and parcticing now processes which call for new habits and patterns. I will later on draw a comaparison between our control and command belief systems and habits with those that we need to bring in our lives to make systems like Holacracy work.

To know more about Holacracy go to https://www.holacracy.org/

Thanks to Parul agarwal and Hemshree Jain for organising the Blog Post.

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Co-facilitating ‘No Blame Zone’ in Delhi with Chitra!

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Am looking forward to co-facilitating two and half days of  ‘No Blame Zone – an Intro to Compassionate Communication’ scheduled on 10th, 11th and 12th July in Delhi with Chitra Panchkaran. We will start at 6 pm to 8 pm on Friday, followed with dinned and have two full days on Saturday and Sunday. To see the details of the workshop and to register go to goo.gl/PL57lt

Chitra belongs to Himachal Pradesh and for the last 30 years has been living with her husband and two children in Delhi. She has been working on women’s rights with various NGO’s and Government agencies. She got the NVC bug about twenty years ago when she attended a ten day Intensive Training led by Marshall Rosenberg in 2004, in Bangalore, which inspired her into learning NVC deeply.

She credits her learning to Klaus Karstadt, Bridget Belgrave, Nada, Dilip and Fr. Chris Rajendran with whom she as attended many NVC trainings and interacted over endless conversations. She has been mentored by Kumarjeev and is proud to see Marshall as her Guru.

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She has organised many NVC trainings in Delhi and around, facilitated by her self as well as by other NVC trainers including Salim, Aniruddha, Kumarjeev and Dilip in her community.

She incorporates NVC in her work as an NGO worker in the field of gender sensitisation, mitigation of violence against women and trauma healing. Has also worked as a legal aid for women affected by violence and women leaders from villages in north India to give them skills for effective community engagement and mediation. She has also worked with college girls as well as prison inmates.

Has worked with Jane Conner a renowned NVC trainer, who also known for her book, ‘Connecting Across Differences’. Has also co-hosted trainings with Kumarjeev, a passionate NVC trainer from Maharashtra.

She has also been active with the NVC community building activities and was in the core team of International Institute of Nonviolent Communication in India, (INVCI) which initiated and hosted first International NVC convention in 2009 at Rishikesh in India.

Conducted and organised trainings on Wenlido, a Non-violent self defence methodology.

She has deep commitment to social change and has been a columnist in National Dailies of India hosting columns where she counsels the readers who ask questions around their day to day challenges in their personal relationships.

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Has also hosted an NVC practice group in her neighbourhood of Janakpuri in Delhi. One of the pioneers who has kept the fire and passion of NVC alive in her and has touched many people over the last twenty years. Her simplicity and humility makes people safe to share their stories with her and seek support from her. She is also fluent in sharing and practicing NVC in hindi and has deep understanding of cultural nuances and challenges of women in India.

Look forward to joyful and meaningful times with her during the coming days.

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Mindful Gift Culture: Mera Mangal, Tera Mangal, Sabaka Mangal Hoye Re…

I have been experimenting with gift culture where I was doing workshops and other offerings where people could choose what they wanted to contribute. I am grateful to have been taken care of and nourished by financial contributions and so many different ways by my community and friends.  I have been asked this question, how much are they expected to pay.

“How do I decide how much to contribute?”

We are trusting that your are holding the intention of care for your self as well as those who bring this valuable gift of NVC to our life and would enjoy nourishing them too to the best of your abilities.

For letting your know that larger picture I would like to share information on the areas where I would want to spend the money that you would offer me. If you share my dreams, you can think of many different ways of contributing towards fulfilling these dreams with our without money.

Some of the things for which I would need money in the near future. (With Approx Amount needed for the activitiy)

  1. My personal expenses for home, travel and nourishment. (Rs 40,000 a month.)
  2. Purchase a Fairphone, Rs 30,000 – a Fair Phone Free from Violence in its production. See http://www.fairphone.com/
  3. Travelling in Europe to learn about Sociocracy in May – June 2105
  4. Travel to Brazil to support my learning of Restorative Circle Process more deeply- (Rs 2.5 Lakh).
  5. To go through NVC certification process and travel work with three mentors. (Rs. 3 Lakh).
  6. To attend an International Intensive Training (IIT) on NVC which is necessary for going into Certification Process. Seehttp://www.cnvc.org/luxembourg-october-2014   (Rs. 3 Lakh)
  7. Supporting travel and expenses of Apprentices who want to learn NVC with me and support me in my work (50,000 a month).
  8. Creating Video and Audios on Nonviolent Communication for the Indian context. 3,00,000 per year.

You can also contribute in ways other than money too by giving your time and skills, providing spaces for hosting workshops, supporting me in hosting workshops, documenting the learnings from the workshops. Besides if you have any other ideas to support my dreams you are welcome to suggest them

Some of my long term dreams that I would like to work on if I have more resources, is to create and host a space for a land based sustainable living and learning community.  It will be a learning and resource center on Conflict Transformation, Community Living, Consensus process and Non Violence. The place would be accessible to people from all over the world with more efforts to attract people from South Asia and Africa.

This place will support in creating a Peace Corp of which can go and support other individuals, families, communities, sects, organisation, government agencies, companies, movements, political groups, or any one who are willing to try our conflict transformation practices. The Peace Corp could even go in areas of Riots and Violent Struggles to create spaces for dialogue between the groups who are in conflict. We will strive to work with any one, irrespective of their ideological stands. Amount for this is not known yet as it will slowly evolve as I go along and find more co-travellers for this journey of learning and sharing NVC and others Restorative Peace Practices.

I also dream to muster support among like minded people to advocate for a Ministry of Compassion for all Governments and working on creating Restorative Justice Practices and also stopping capital punishment.

 If you have any queries about the workshop or the payment format or want ideas to contribute in other creative ways, please mention in the registration form or write to me at  shamminanda@gmail.com  and we will get back to you.

 During the workshop we will spend an hour to talk about this to hear all the views, concerns and challenges that people have about this process. We will  see how we can have dialogue in an NVC way and this will contribute to a live learning situation.

Thanks

Shammi

 

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My journey with food, healing and community…

Shammi’s grew up in a close-knit community in Jaipur, Rajasthan in a neighborhood where many refugee families from Pakistan had settled after the Partition of 1947. He experienced the joy of community living in the neighborhood where people made pickles and papads together and took care of the neighbors when they were unwell. He saw a generation of people who had lost everything by the partition to gain control over their life with their hard work. He saw his aunts light a tandoor where neighbors got their dough to share the fire and make tandoori rotis or ‘Sanjha Chullaha’ All this sowed seeds in him to be with communities which he has done all his life. He still sees himself deeply connected to the community there. He visits them once a year to share his learnings from the rest of the world and gets nourished by the community in return. To know about his engagement with the Jaipur community see http://goo.gl/h06dzQ and Page 33 at http://goo.gl/SNlR7y

Later Shammi went to Delhi to study economics where he got an understanding of how economic systems work and how lot of misery that people experience is a result of systemic decisions and events.
Yet he was disheartened by the obsession that the present economics programs saw production of good as the sole indicator of the quality of life. He also joined Delhi School of Economics but the two years he spent their was not at all inspiring with all the mathematical modeling and he could not study enough to even finish the course. In the words of the university he ‘failed’.

He also spent a lot of time in Jawaharlal Nehru University and was closely studying the way students organize there. He even enrolled there and did one semester of Linguistics.

Later in life, Shammi graduated from the Film Institute in Pune. He was active in students politics and struggled against attempts to fee hikes and commercialization of the Institute. That gave him lot of experience in the power of community and taught him the limitations of the so called democratic ways of decisions making. That sowed in him seeds to look for a system where we take decisions with consent rather than going with the majority voice.

He moved to work in Mumbai where, as a consequence of an unhealthy lifestyle he had been leading, Shammi was developed chronic asthma. He also was part of a learning eco-systems of friends and neighbors that would meet once a week in the name of Sunday Club and do things with their hands and learn from each other. The interaction with children there made him look at how they learn and what can be the best way to have their creativity blossom. He developed a strong critique of schools and is now interested in creating learning communities. He is deeply connected to the home or unschooling community in India. See Page 93 in http://goo.gl/Kk7diI

When he was faced with asthma like symptoms in Mumbai, he stumbled upon looking at connection between our health and food, nature cure, yoga and other lifestyle changes as a way to heal himself. He got into healthy ways of cooking and self healing. He has had many mentors on food and has attended workshops of Vijaya Venkat and has closely seen their way of working. See http://goo.gl/QmHUwh

He also volunteered to run an organic kitchen at the Film Institute in Pune where they served an organic meal for Rs 25. There he learnt how to manage an organizations and understood how lack of effective ways of communication can make the running of the place challenging. See http://goo.gl/dSyIVp and the challenges he faced on it at http://goo.gl/r6YeVh

After looking at ways of cooking he moved to look at ways of growing food and learnt while being on many organic farms. He also created an Urban Farm in Chandigarh with his friend Moonstar. http://www.parshada.tumblr.com

He has also been strongly connected with Shikshantar for the last 8 years where they have been practicing ways of community living inspired by Gandhi ji’s ideas of swaraj. http://www.swaraj.org/shikshantar

His experience in healing the body soon led him to discover its close relationship with the healing of the mind.
He realized that eating healthy food was not enough but we need to have healthy ways of relating to each other in our communities. This inquiry led him into study of Nonviolent Communicaiton. He has been working on it now for the last four years and have shared it all over the country with diverse communities. See his blog at http://goo.gl/Wym1Xq and http://goo.gl/HFq2Ki
He is now also working on supporting people to transit to more healthier diets with the support NVC, where they move from a right. Wrong, blame, shame or guilt paradigm to a deeper self connected need base paradigm. The transitions thus are with more love and care at the same time with full awareness if the choices that we make.

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Gazala Singh

Gazala Singh would be supporting me to facilitate the upcoming workshops in Delhi in August 2014.
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Deeply interested in the lived human experience, Gazala Singh’s guiding inquiry of what it means to be human has taken on multiple trajectories. From studying historic cultural patterns and social structures through double Master’s in Archaeology and Social Anthropology to modes of wellbeing that include self-care, people-care and earth-care, by exploring the rich edges of yoga, food energetics, permaculture, deep ecology, the sacred feminine, and non-violent communication.

Having lived in various sustainable and spiritual communities in the UK and India, she repeatedly found that some of the most promising ideas and projects didn’t seem to find their end due to issues around communication or lack of it. A serendipitous introduction to Non-Violent Communication at a Nature Fair at Regent’s Park, London in June 2012 got her moving toward a Compassionate Communication journey, which she continued at Joy Guest House in Auroville on her return to India and at the Non-Violent Communication Convention in Kerela in January 2014, invited by Shammi Nanda. She has curated and continues to organise workshops on Conscious Living and Mindfulness, is a yogini, earth lover and follower of her own bliss.

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Aabha’s Food Journey

Aabha is a Nutrition Coach and a Fitness trainer. She has a degree in Software Engineering. Her passion for healthy food and fitness developed out of her desire for the best health for her family and herself. She started observing the strong connection between eating habits and health. She explored numerous schools of thought to further her knowledge in Nutrition. She can make uncompromisingly healthy food that is also very tasty. Above all, sheis passionate, committed, and has a high level of integrity in everything she does, including her work.

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For over 15 years, shehas had an interest in making very healthy and tasty food. She tries hard not to compromise on the nutritional aspect of food. Being a Nutrition coach who practices very stringent nutritional standards required her to take that interest to another level. One option is to forgo taste or at least compromise on that aspect of food somewhat and not everyone can do that. Thus, as an alternative, she started guiding her clients with recipes, and food preparation ideas that catered to “very healthy and very tasty” food requirements. Then, due to increasing demand from family and friends she started catering. Her hope is to provide a first-hand experience that healthy can also be tasty.

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Two years ago she started Nutrition Coaching and Fitness training professionally. Besides that, she has conducted healthy cooking workshops in Mumbai and Pune and baking workshops in Pune.

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She has been involved in catering for various events. Few of the events are:
• International Non-violent Communication conference held in Trivandrum with 200 participants from around the world for 5 days (this convention had about 120 International participants)
• Moved By Love International Retreat with 70 participants from around the world for 3 days (this retreat had about 40 International participants)
• Moved By Love Retreat with 50 participants in Ahmedabad organised by Service Space
• Workshop on Square foot gardening organized by Gorus Organic Framing
• City photography workshop organized by Design Spaces
• Several events at the Urban Ashram, Pune

She has given talks on Nutrition and conducted workshops at a number of places. Some of the events are as follows:
• World Kitchen Garden International Day organised by Urban Leaves
• Organic Seed festival in Nagpur
• Students and staff at Sahyadri School (J. Krishnamurti Foundation School) in Rajgurunagar near Pune

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She has trained the cooks at the Sahyadri School kitchen in oil free cooking. The kitchen caters to 300 children and adults every day. She also conducts extended courses in Nutrition Coaching.

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Shammi’s Journey with Food and Community

About Shammi Nanda
His story begins with his rich experience growing up in a close-knit community in Jaipur, Rajasthan in a neighborhood where many refugee families from Pakistan had settled after the Partition of 1947. He experienced the joy of community living in the neighborhood where people made pickles and papads together and took care of the neighbors when they were unwell. He saw a generation of people who had lost everything by the partition to gain control over their life with their hard work. He saw his aunts light a tandoor where neighbors got their dough to share the fire and make tandoori rotis or ‘Sanjha Chullaha’ All this sowed seeds in him to be with communities which he has done all his life. He still sees himself deeply connected to the community there. He visits them once a year to share his learnings from the rest of the world and gets nourished by the community in return. To know about his engagement with the Jaipur community see http://goo.gl/h06dzQ and Page 33 at http://goo.gl/SNlR7y

Later Shammi went to Delhi to study economics where he got an understanding of how economic systems work and how lot of misery that people experience is a result of systemic decisions and events.
Yet he was disheartened by the obsession that the present economics programs saw production of good as the sole indicator of the quality of life. He also joined Delhi School of Economics but the two years he spent their was not at all inspiring with all the mathematical modeling and he could not study enough to even finish the course. In the words of the university he ‘failed’.

He also spent a lot of time in Jawaharlal Nehru University and was closely studying the way students organize there. He even enrolled there and did one semester of Linguistics.

Later in life, Shammi graduated from the Film Institute in Pune. He was active in students politics and struggled against attempts to fee hikes and commercialization of the Institute. That gave him lot of experience in the power of community and taught him the limitations of the so called democratic ways of decisions making. That sowed in him seeds to look for a system where we take decisions with consent rather than going with the majority voice.

He moved to work in Mumbai where, as a consequence of an unhealthy lifestyle he had been leading, Shammi was developed chronic asthma. He also was part of a learning eco-systems of friends and neighbors that would meet once a week in the name of Sunday Club and do things with their hands and learn from each other. The interaction with children there made him look at how they learn and what can be the best way to have their creativity blossom. He developed a strong critique of schools and is now interested in creating learning communities. He is deeply connected to the home or unschooling community in India. See Page 93 in http://goo.gl/Kk7diI

When he was faced with asthma like symptoms in Mumbai, he stumbled upon looking at connection between our health and food, nature cure, yoga and other lifestyle changes as a way to heal himself. He got into healthy ways of cooking and self healing. He has had many mentors on food and has attended workshops of Vijaya Venkat and has closely seen their way of working. See http://goo.gl/QmHUwh

He also volunteered to run an organic kitchen at the Film Institute in Pune where they served an organic meal for Rs 25. There he learnt how to manage an organizations and understood how lack of effective ways of communication can make the running of the place challenging. See http://goo.gl/dSyIVp and the challenges he faced on it at http://goo.gl/r6YeVh

After looking at ways of cooking he moved to look at ways of growing food and learnt while being on many organic farms. He also created an Urban Farm in Chandigarh with his friend Moonstar. http://www.parshada.tumblr.com

He has also been strongly connected with Shikshantar for the last 8 years where they have been practicing ways of community living inspired by Gandhi ji’s ideas of swaraj. http://www.swaraj.org/shikshantar

His experience in healing the body soon led him to discover its close relationship with the healing of the mind.
He realized that eating healthy food was not enough but we need to have healthy ways of relating to each other in our communities. This inquiry led him into study of Nonviolent Communicaiton. He has been working on it now for the last four years and have shared it all over the country with diverse communities. See his blog at http://goo.gl/Wym1Xq and http://goo.gl/HFq2Ki

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